Terrible Wife?

I spent my wedding night sitting on the living room floor in my wedding dress, crying over the fact that my Mom and brother didn’t come to my wedding.  

How do you deal with something so hurtful?  I feel like a terrible wife, but I’m so depressed lately over so many different things…  I feel stuck.  

Just Married

Hi my tumbloves! 

I haven’t forgotten about you, I have just been very busy with our wedding.  We were married last weekend on our 6 year anniversary, July 28th 2012 in Niagara Falls, ON.  The ceremony was definitely something that we’re able to look back on and laugh, and the dinner afterwards at the Skylon Revolving Restaurant was perfect!  Amazing food, service, and a breath taking view!  Now that all of these wedding stresses are out of the way, look forward to seeing more posts from me.  

Lots of love. xox

Fat On Purpose

I have just come across an article about a woman who is eating close to 30,000 calories a DAY to become the world’s fattest bride.  

I’m all for fat acceptance.  If you’re fat, that’s great.  Love the skin you’re in.  But, purposely trying to become fat and overeating to get there is not healthy. Sure, neither is being fat in the first place… but this is taking it to a whole different level.  

Your goal should never be “to become the world’s fattest” or “to become the world’s thinnest”.  You should never be harming your body just to impress others.  Love yourself the way you are - and others will too.  

Don’t change yourself for anybody other than you.  And, if you feel that you need to make a change in your life to benefit your health or your lifestyle, do it.  Don’t do it because others are telling you to.  And, definitely don’t do it to get attention.  

Fat People and The Beach

Don’t feel like you have to cover your body with a t-shirt and a pair of shorts at the beach, just because you’re fat.  The only time you should be doing this is if you’re trying to avoid a sunburn.  

Covering up at the beach, because you’re intimidated by the “skinny” people in their bikinis - is just letting them win.  It’s showing them that you are afraid of what they think of your body.  Don’t let them have that satisfaction.  

Rock your bathing suit, get a tan (don’t forget the sun screen!) and enjoy the summer.  Don’t ruin your summer on a count of other people’s opinions.  

Confidence is sexy.  

Summer Sexiness

I was always the one to wear baggy sweatshirts, jeans, and long sleeved shirts. I thought that if I hid my big body underneath big clothes, nobody would be able to see how big I really was.  

First of all, being fat in the summer isn’t exactly a fabulous thing…  We carry around a lot more weight than the “average person” and, adding an extra 10lbs of clothes on top of it makes you sweat 10 times more.  

A couple of years ago, I didn’t have much self confidence; I was always scared of what people had to say about me.  After realizing that the only person’s opinion that mattered was my own, I started living life a little differently. 

Compliments were not something I was used to, but after I started buying and wearing t-shirts, tank tops, dresses and most recently, skirts - the compliments started flowing in.  It was wonderful to feel sexy, and beautiful in my own skin.  

I just came to a point where I realized that the baggy clothes didn’t hide my body, they made it look a lot bigger.  

So don’t be afraid to show off your legs or arms, and make sure to rock those awesome curves you have.  Own it.  You’ll notice a difference in the way you feel.  Because nothing feels better than not feeling like you have to hide your body from the world.  Nothing feels better than feeling sexy in the body you have.  Wear your body, and those cute summer clothes proud. 

You also won’t sweat as much wearing less clothing.  Trust me.  

My Big Fat Shopping Troubles

So we know that being fat, and trying to find nice looking clothes isn’t fun.

They either: look like something from your Grandmother’s closet, are too tight because you’re trying to squeeze into something that wasn’t meant for your voluptuous body, or are way too expensive. 

I find that a lot of companies who cater their clothes to us fat people, seem to have trouble making their clothes inexpensive!  I understand, the extra material is expensive… blah, blah, blah.  But, really, just because we’re fat doesn’t mean that our wallets are too!

The other problem is stores that have “XXL” sizes, but yet their XL looks too small for even a 12 year old to wear.  I think that fashion designers have such an unrealistic view of what real people look like.  We’re not all running around in size 4’s, some of us have a little more body to fit into clothes than others do! 

Then, you have your stores that don’t even go up to an XL *ahem, H&M* which makes it sound like being anything other than a Large is unacceptable.

One of my biggest pet peeves are department stores who separate the regular size clothes with the “plus size” clothes.  I always hated going shopping with my friends, and having to shop in a totally different area of the store because I was bigger than a size 14.  It was embarrassing that I couldn’t look at the same clothes as them, in the same section as them; so I never did!  Just put all of the clothes together, and call it a day.  We shouldn’t have our own department like pets and babies do.  We’re just regular people who are shopping for clothes.  We don’t need special treatment because we need a little extra material. 

On that note, companies that do put the clothes together and expect you to pay $10 more for the exact same shirt that is in a “regular” size, is ridiculous too.  I know, I know, the extra material… but, come on.  What about the people wearing an XS?  They don’t get to less because they don’t need as much material as say, a Medium size! 

I don’t get how the fashion industry treats people.  And, who ever came up with the fact that size 12 is now the new “plus size”?   Are you freaking kidding me?  I’ll show you plus size; and size 12 is nowhere close to it.  Size 12 is probably my left thigh alone. 

Well, I guess only in a perfect world would issues like this not exist. 

Such is life.

Anonymous asked: If you could wake up thin one day, would you chose it. Or would you stay the size you are now?

If you could wake up a millionaire one day, would you?  Or would you stay stuck in a 9-5 job, working your ass off just to support your family; for the rest of your life?  Of course, we would choose the more positive situation.  It’s a difficult question though, because for health reasons, I probably wouldn’t mind being a little smaller.  But, I would never want to be “thin”.  In my personal opinion, curves are sexy.  And, I’m happy with who I am and what I look like. 

Anonymous asked: Do you love being fat? Or have you just come to accept it?

I have come to accept that the way I look, is the way I look.  I love the person I am, yes.  I would love myself whether I was 300lbs or 130lbs.  As should everybody.